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When some people hear about my personality work, most people think of the Myers-Briggs Test, and tell me they are an ‘INFP’ or an ‘ENFJ’, and ask what I am and how it’s used at e Harmony.
The next part always shocks them: we don’t use the Myers-Briggs. When I tell them that the personality type they just told me isn’t used and doesn’t have much meaning to me, they can’t believe it.
"And that can be very draining." After talking with Overbo, I realized my approach with dating was all wrong, that Myers-Briggs shouldn't eliminate anyone.
"Often what can happen in those relationships is one person ends up dominating in [each preference], and the other person has to flex outside of theirs," she explained." "This one is the one in particular [that] can be a source of conflict." P-types are more spontaneous while J-types "approach life in a really organized, planful, and structured fashion." An example: When planning a weekend, a J-type will say "'Where is that list? I want to get it done, I want to get it done ahead of time.' And the P-type is sitting there, thinking, 'Well, I don't approach things making lists.Just trust me, I'm gonna go to the store, I've made a mental list.Overbo suggests using type "as a way to really engage them further. Instead, my mind got ahead of me, and I convinced myself we weren't compatible.Say, 'Great, let's talk a little bit more about that. As an ISTJ, he was logical and detail driven; as an ENFJ, I was feeling and big picture-oriented.
But they're far from guaranteed "because there's more to every relationship than just personality type." Still, Overbo noted a few red flags with opposite pairings: "That can be a great combination when you're looking for balance, but it can also cause some hiccups along the way." An example: After a hard day, an E-type may want to talk and "can be seen as maybe barraging [an I-type] with a lot of conversation and a lot of talking.