Does dating an ex convict work
That the past was really just that, and that I might have a chance someday to have my hand held again, not by cuffs. From Amanda, formerly incarcerated for larceny: “I just accepted him because Kristen did.” From Kristen, formerly incarcerated for possession of narcotics with intent to sell: “I took him because Sara did.” From Sara, formerly incarcerated for armed robbery: “I don’t know him.
Then I wrote: “Look, if you don’t want to talk to me anymore, I understand. I wasn’t trying to hide anything.” I clenched my lips, anticipating his response. That maybe there’d be times a love interest wouldn’t poke around on the Internet, looking for my backstory. “You were friends with him first.” “Oh, then I don’t know how I got him.” I messaged the other mutuals.
But for a guilty con, I would not risk my life like that.
Even if he were a ‘white collar’ convict, it means he lied, betrayed and cheated the people who trusted him, and with that, I’d be foolish to think he won’t betray me.
No one looks at their kids and thinks that it would be okay for them to one day date a felon, so, why would Ibreak my parents’ hearts by doing so?
I take that advice with utmost enthusiasm because I wouldn’t want to be associated with law breakers who might just be actually evil.
Butterflies start dancing in your stomach and you start acting like a besotted teenager, but just as you think that your lonely nights and your days of searching for the right person could be over, you find out that the man or woman of your dreams is a former convict. Your mind will wonder and wander if the subject of your now so rosy interest is remorseful, you will wonder if they asked for forgiveness (if the crime was committed against a person or people) and most importantly, if they have truly reformed.
You meet someone, they are good-looking, they seem interesting, they are respectful and the icing on the cake is that they are head over heels in love with you. Good communication is one of the biggest pillars of a strong relationship.
For six years, I worried about who would hold my criminal record against me when I left prison and returned to the dating scene. After wondering who would hold my past against me, now I worried about who would hold it in my favor, this underground cabal of men who text each other links to the news stories of our arrests and convictions with the message “” For the first several months of my freedom, I batted away messages and friend requests from men from Sydney; Bonn, Germany; Kuala Lumpur; Inglewood, Calif.; and towns near me in Connecticut. ’ Blocked his a–.” He had parlayed a connection with one inmate to collect a bevy of released offenders, each of whom he was messaging, trying to meet her, telling her how attractive she was. A woman released two months after I was, asked me later: “Do you know this guy who poked me? We put out a PIP warning — Predators Into Prisoners — our first APB for someone other than ourselves.
I knew that my name would be Googled by people and they would know a story about me, before we even met. ” Since I was released from prison three years ago, I have received more than 100 of these types of messages through Facebook. Men all willing to travel to meet me because they Googled my name and were convinced I was the stereotypical released female offender: sex-starved, lonely, lawless. He said he was earning his MBA while working a veterans’ health center. But if he knew my friends from York Correctional Institution, then he already knew that I had been there, too. I finally heard from him the day we were scheduled to meet. One of my old cellmates wrote: “He sent me a friend request, too.” My fellow former prisoners and I found more than 30 recently released women he had messaged on Facebook.
We can love anybody but we need to love ourselves more.