Dating a narcissist
Narcissists become bored easily and what usually starts happening in their heads at this stage, is that the void begins to emerge again.
The high they were feeding off of is waning and they begin to question your worthiness, that perhaps you weren’t so special after all, because if you were then the void wouldn’t still be there.
They do not feel love and they lack the ability to connect and form normal attachment bonds with others. Because their entire sense of self-esteem and self-worth is dependent on the admiration of others, their emotions are a precarious balance of needing others and needing to be left alone. This void is ever present and the only thing that fills it, is the love and esteem of another. A Narcissist describes it this way, “It’s like my brain is constantly seeking something.
It’s like I’m always chasing a carrot at the end of a stick. I feel like I only do things because I’m supposed to, because society does it.
The greater the status, the higher the value the Narcissist places on the Supply derived.
Once a target has been chosen, it’s almost like the Narcissist gets tunnel vision.
They don’t return your phone calls, they don’t keep a single promise and you’re starting to suspect that they might be involved with someone else.
They are excessively caring, loving and attentive at this stage.
People usually get into relationships for love and the need to connect and bond with another.
Narcissists get into relationships for entirely different reasons.
Their pursuer is exactly what they want in a partner (because the Narcissist is mirroring what they have learned appeals to their target) and they can’t believe how lucky they are and that this catch is still single.
What they don’t know, or could ever be prepared for, is what comes next.
They will talk and think about them constantly, they are euphoric.