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They’re no longer the object of my affection, a mirror for my self-worth, or an affirmation of my beauty. The night Trump was elected, I wrote about feeling lonely.
I wanted to be comforted — but I wanted it to be by someone who had an inkling of the anxiety I felt for my family, my loved ones, and for myself.
I lost count of the times my boyfriend in my late 20s would tell me to “just leave” parties or social events when I complained of being the only person of color in his all-white friend group.
Even more hurtful was the night he and I were standing outside a bar in Bushwick and someone we both knew started making racist comments.
On election night, I thought about all those moments, and I felt overwhelmed at the possibility of taking that on over the next four years.
It’s an odd thing to then go back to my date and continue the performance of “getting to know you.” I fantasize about walking up to him and saying, “Gotta go!
They smoked weed in their parents’ houses with abandon. If they wanted me, I thought, it was because I seemed free like them.
White men have preoccupied me my whole life, from the schoolyard to the subway, but these days I’m seeing them differently.
It felt different this time, like the flirtatious version of the “black nod” at work — an acknowledgement between two black employees who might not even know one another, but who have a shared experience.
What I’m craving right now from a partner — more than feeling beautiful, more than anything — is a “black nod” version of a relationship.
In every relationship I have with a white man, there comes a moment when they come to understand a simple fact of my life: that racism is an intimate part of my daily existence.