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Tomorrow I am going to meet a girl with whom I have beem chatting online.
I am both nervous and excited in a way which I was when dating as a boy, I am now 48.
Civil laws have varying requirements, so please check with the appropriate Spiritual Assembly for guidance.
"The Lord, peerless is He, hath made woman and man to abide with each other in the closest companionship, and to be even as a single soul.
The significant decisions they make about the direction of their adult lives will determine whether service to the Cause of God was only a brief and memorable chapter of their younger years, or a fixed center of their earthly existence, a lens through which all actions come into focus.” “Consultation…is applicable to the marriage partners and within the family, and indeed in all areas where believers participate in mutual decision-making.
It requires all participants to express their opinions with absolute freedom and without apprehension that they will be censured and/or their views belittled....”[When asked about specific rules of conduct to govern the relationship between husbands and wives] “...[F]or example, the principle that the rights of each and all in the family unit must be upheld, and the advice that loving consultation should be the keynote, that all matters must be settled in harmony and love, and that there are times when the husband and the wife should defer to the wishes of the other.
Bahá’í law thus restricts permissible sexual intercourse to that between a man and the woman to whom he is married.” "The Bahá’í Faith recognizes the value of the sex impulse….
The proper use of the sex instinct is the natural right of every individual, and it is precisely for this purpose that the institution of marriage has been established." "...
Let all associate, therefore, in this great human garden even as flowers grow and blend together side by side without discord or disagreement between them." "...[Y]our statement to the effect that the principle of oneness of mankind prevents any true Bahá’í from regarding race itself as a bar to union [in inter-racial marriage] is in complete accord with the Teachings of the Faith on this point.
“Although a Bahá’í may, if he chooses, seek his parents’ advice on the choice of a partner, and although Bahá’í parents may give such advice if asked, it is clear from the Teachings that parents do not have the right to interfere in their children’s actual choice of a prospective partner until approached for their consent to marry.” “...[M]arriage is dependent upon the consent of both parties.
Desiring to establish love, unity and harmony amidst Our servants, We have conditioned it, once the couple’s wish is known, upon the permission of their parents, lest enmity and rancor should arise amongst them.” For more information see Relationships and also Resources “…Bahá’u’lláh ordained that Bahá’í engagement should not exceed 95 days, and, although this law has not yet been applied universally, it highlights the desirability of marrying quickly once the decision to marry has been firmly taken and parental consent obtained.”“When the consent of the parents is obtained, the only other requirement for the ceremony is the recitation by both parties in the presence of two witnesses of the specifically revealed verse: ‘We will all, verily, abide by the Will of God.’ The following quotations from letters written …[on behalf of Shoghi Effendi] indicate the desirability of the Bahá’í marriage ceremony being simple: 1.
Each must, however, exercise the utmost care to become thoroughly acquainted with the character of the other, that the binding covenant between them may be a tie that will endure forever.” "There is a difference between character and faith; it is often very hard to accept this fact and put up with it, but the fact remains that a person may believe in and love [the Bahá’í Faith]—even to being ready to die for it—and yet not have a good personal character, or possess traits at variance with the teachings.
We should try to change, to let the Power of God help recreate us and make us true Bahá’ís in deed as well as in belief.
The Universal House of Justice has pointed out in response to questions addressed to it that, in a marriage relationship, neither husband nor wife should ever unjustly dominate the other, and that there are times when the husband and the wife should defer to the wishes of the other, if agreement cannot be reached through consultation; each couple should determine exactly under what circumstances such deference is to take place.”“…[T]he Bahá’í conception of sex is based on the belief that chastity should be strictly practiced by both sexes, not only because it is in itself highly commendable ethically, but also due to its being the only way to a happy and successful marital life.